So, my boyfriend bought a '96 Cherokee (XJ) SE, for way too much, like around $3,000. It broke down and he has put another $2,500 in it and totally rebuilt the engine and did a lot of after market work on it. He has and will do all the labor himself, he refuses to pay for labor. Now, he finds out that the motor needs to be taken back out and fixed again and is looking at another $700. I said he should just sell it and wipe his hands clean, he says he won't make enough.

Firstly, what is your guys' opinion on what he should do? Secondly, how much do you think he could make parting it versus just the whole car as is?

Thanks for your guys' opinions!

You want my opinion? Ok…

Shut the hell up. You’re not his wife. You’re not paying for the repairs. It’s absolutely none of your business what he does with his Jeep or his money. I know your type well… first it’s “Sell the Jeep because it’s costing too much money.” Then it’s “No, you can’t go spend the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping.” Then it’s “Oh gee, honey… I’m pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that happened.”

You’re a DreamKiller. You kill a guy’s dreams, take away his future, tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into just another miserable guy wondering, “How the hell did I get here?”

Do you really want to help him? Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) and check out a couple of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the wire connectors apart, help him get the hood off… help him with anything he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO beer. Beer is for when the job is done.)

Then when the day is over and you’re both exhausted from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off. Then get up the next day and do it all over again.

Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as surgery; every step must be perfect… perfect torque, perfect fit, perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just can’t figure out, ask for help from someone who knows what he’s doing. Are you cute? Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this one little step, and do they have any advice…

Think it won’t work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls, even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe you’ve got a sister, or girlfriend…)

But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative thing. Not a single “Oooooo, I broke a nail.” If you break a nail, or cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT. You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader, encouraging him every step of the way.

That’s my opinion.

Doesn't anyone see the basic problem here of the fact that the woman is not only doing work on the vehicle, but performing tasks for the comfort of the man too? **** that ****. If I were out in a hot shed getting my tits all dirty along with my guy, I would not be prepared to make him ****ing sandwiches and coffee and give him fluffy towels on top of that.

Guys, you can choose one of the above. Women can support your automotive endeavours EITHER by helping you work on the parts OR by bringing you refreshments. You can't expect us to pamper you after we've worked just as hard as you have.

"When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner". Who's to say I'M not tired after working on a greasy old engine?

"Then when the day is over and you’re BOTH EXHAUSTED from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub HIS back, wash HIS hair, rinse HIM off, and dry HIM with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off." I'm exhausted too, why doesn't he scrub my back?

I get that to some extent this is a joke, but you can't expect a woman to perform the dual function of being your best mate and your mother. She's not there to do **** for you, she's your equal, and if you don't see her that way, you're a selfish unreasonable jerkwad *******. My boyfriend wouldn't expect this of me, if he saw that I was exhausted he'd go and get me a drink, if I cut my finger he'd get me a bandaid, because he cares about me, and I'd do the same. It has to go both ways.

You guys can expect all you want, but you can't expect more than you're willing to give back. Giving your SO sex or flowers isn't the same as reciprocating care and love.

dreamkiller

nice. but I think hes expecting a little much, I wonder if he ever cooked dinner for a woman? they sex you good for that.